When a Friend Left You

“Treat everyone with kindness even those who keep stabbing your back not because they are nice but because you are. =))”

I read this quote as I head to work this morning. Being stuck in the traffic gave me time to contemplate about the said quote.

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It is easy to like the people who are good to you but it is truly a challenge to be kind to those who stab you at the back. I have my share of heartaches on those kinds of people.

There was a time when I found out that a lady whom I treated as my best friend was saying negative things about me behind my back – statements that malign and defame my reputation. It is painful – really painful. I am just thankful that I have ‘real friends’ who opened my eyes about it. At first I was in a state of denial but proofs were seen and evidences are evident. I would like to ask her about it and hear her side but I don’t have the ability to do that because she stops communicating with me. I had to cry my heart out to ease the pain. I cried to God like a little girl running to her parents after being wounded and bruised. I let myself feel the pain and then I detached and live my life again, now, as a better person.

Some of my friends who knew about the incident asked me, “Are you not angry at her? Will you not say any negative things about her?” I told them that I don’t feel any anger towards her. Yes, I was hurt by what she did but that is not a reason for me to be angry. I don’t want to say anything that would hurt her because she is my friend. Someday, we might see each other again and when that happens I want to be able to look at her straight in the eyes with clear conscience. I don’t want to say anything hurtful. I want to be a friend to her.

Each of us might have a story to tell regarding this matter. Each of us might have our share of pains. Let us not repay evil for evil rather let us overcome evil by doing good.

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